Acting Aged

Sunday 27th April 2008

This is a continuation of a comment I wrote on one of Flix’s posts. I started to write another comment, but it kinda turned into an essay and got ever so slightly away from the main thrust of the post, so I moved it over here. It’s something that I’ve been sorta thinking about lately anyway, but Flix’s post was sort of a catalyst to this getting written. Hope you don’t mind, Flix :-)

So I basically started off on a rant on maturity, and whatnot. The thrust of my initial comments on the post referred to this remark:

“Another problem lies in the fact that girls are generally way beyond guys in the maturity stakes”

That’s fairly true up to a point, but we catch up. Over a certain age (late teens? 20?), I don’t think “maturity” is anything to do with gender, and more to do with a bunch of other factors. Some people just are immature. As I said over there, I’ve met as many (and maybe more) immature gals as I have immature guys. And certainly looking at my circle of friends and most people I know that are of a similar age, no gender is any more or less mature, on the whole.

Another thing is that different aspects of people mature at different rates anyway. For instance, looking back at how I was when I started Uni all that time ago, I realise now that although in some ways I was pretty mature, in some other ways I was still relatively naive. And I’m sure that’s still the case (and probably always will be. No-one can ever be completely mature) but I think I’m generally more mature than I am immature. All that said, I’m fairly sure that in a few years I’ll look back at myself now and marvel at my immaturity.

I’ve seen the same sort of thing in other people too – just because on the whole someone is mature, doesnt stop them from having immature moments or immature aspects of their personality. And vice-versa, of course.

All that said, it’s a weird concept, maturity. I mean, what is “mature”, other than a societal construct defining how we should act? Wikipedia says: “Maturity is a psychological term used to indicate that a person responds to the circumstances or environment in an appropriate manner”, and certainly from that definition it’s a hell of a subjective thing. Define “an appropriate manner”? Everyone’s gonna come up with something different, so how can we definitively say what is or isn’t mature?

It’s all about society, innit? That, and our endless need to categorise…

And now for something completely different! For anyone who likes free stuff (and thats everyone, surely?), look at this. It’s a seriously good event (I went last year and it was marvellous) and well worth going to. Hell, it’s free, what have you got to lose? Could even camp nearby, and join in with all the beer, burgers, barbeques and beer!

Heh, as if :-p

Posted at 2:37 am | Posted In: MotorsportRantSleepStuff



Sunday 27th April 2008, 10:25 am

Heh, perhaps I was a bit rash in first suggesting that,thinking about it, I suppose you’re right. The problem is that it’s hard to generalise and so I base on specific examples, like meeting some guy and thinking – what? you’re 25?! Though it’s true, many of the girls I know do come across as somewhat immature, so I suppose it swings both ways. We’ve talked about the makings of maturity before, eh? I think I might post a blog on my views, since it’s the topic of the moment and all (this is where a discussion board would come in handy, avoid all the blog-hopping between opinions)

I have camped near Silverstone! Although not for the event itself. I guess you’re planning on going, then? How come it’s free? It would be so easy for me to, if I had any slight interest in motorsport. Blog buddies meet-up!!! ;)


Sunday 27th April 2008, 11:10 am

“Some people just are immature.”

Just happens to be more boys than girls. :oP
I think most would agree, the experience I’ve had at Uni and other aspects of my life leads me unfalteringly to the conclusion they guys take a while to get around to ‘growing up’. That’s why we look for older guys, innit.


Sunday 27th April 2008, 11:49 am

Hmmm. I think girls *do* mature quicker than guys, even into late teens or early twenties, it just comes out in different ways. And it is certainly true that being female is no guarantee of maturity and vice versa.

W.r.t. why girls tend to prefer going out with guys of the same age or older, though, I’m not so convinced that it’s to do with maturity per se rather than the instinct to want to feel looked after?


Sunday 27th April 2008, 7:20 pm

“I guess you’re planning on going, then?”
Heh, of course! Ordered tickets a week or so ago :D

“How come it’s free?”
Cos Renault rock at this sorta thing. I think it’s good advertising for them as well, cos they pack people in and then bombard them with Renault Renault Renault…

“guys take a while to get around to ‘growing up’”/”I think girls *do* mature quicker than guys”, yeh, but by a certain point I think we’ve caught up – I think “guys are immature” only holds true in early teens… Of course, some people still have immaturities, but (IMHO) thats nothing to do with gender, it’s just to do with what those people are like.

What I was trying to say in the post is that a) we’re ALL immature, in some way.

b) what one person may call immature, another wouldn’t. So saying “This group of people is immature, This group of people isnt” is really rather arbitrary, and I’d guess is much more to do with ingroup bias, rather than anything else.

c) whats wrong with a bit of immaturity, anyway?


Sunday 27th April 2008, 11:54 pm

1) you and this flix girl should totally get it together
2) stop banging on about “maturity” and go out and live your lives?


Monday 28th April 2008, 12:12 am

Huzzah for server logs… :-p

anyway, re: 2)… living life at the moment mainly involves revision/coursework/other stuff (see previous entry). Or, in this case, procrastination.


Monday 28th April 2008, 2:42 pm

I completely agree with 2) but it’s easier said than done.


Thursday 8th May 2008, 4:39 pm

some of the most emotionally ‘mature’ people I know still derive FAR too much pleasure from Space Hoppers and Trampolines…

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